When I started having sex, I thought every time had to be an Oscar-worthy performance. Hot, wild, mind-blowing sex with the sex positions you saw in your favorite porn, followed by some cuddling, and then more mind-blowing sex—that’s what I expected. And at first, I experienced a semblance of that. Then, there comes a time when you realize that life is tiring, and sometimes, you don’t want to break a sweat just to get off. Funnily enough, when that happened, my sex life got a whole lot better.
After a long day of a stressful job or maybe after one-too-many margaritas at happy hour, the last thing I want to do is climb on top of someone and whip my hair around. I’d rather not leave my current position in bed, thank you very much. On these days, I’ll turn to a sex position perfect for the laziest days that allow me to embrace my inner pillow princess. And today, I’m spilling my favorites.
Any position where you’re laying on your back is a go-to these days. Minimal effort is the name of the game, and this one puts pretty much all of the control on your partner. The key to this position is that your partner is standing or kneeling on the bed to enter you at a different angle. If you’re fond of spooning (see more below), this is a great way to shake it up without giving up on your precious time in bed.
Does it get any better than spooning? This position (whether for sex with a penis, a strap-on, or a finger) is the gold standard of lazy sex positions. It’s perfect for morning (and middle-of-the-night) sex.
3. Laying on Your Stomach
Any sex position that you could also sleep in is *chef’s kiss*. We love this one because there are ways to make it even more comfortable, like putting a pillow under your stomach to prop you up. In order for your partner to enter you, you might have to do a little wiggling, which is where that pillow comes in handy.
4. In the Bath
Does it get any easier than touching yourself in the bath while your partner watches? It doesn’t. Not only will the bath have you all relaxed, but you can also give it as much or as little as you want, and no matter what, watching you touch yourself will be hot. And if they’re touching themself too? Even hotter.
5. The Spider
While this might be the most involved position on this list, it gets points because you’re still laying down—and with this one, you both get to! In this position, you and your partner lay on your sides, and wrap your legs around each other. You won’t experience the same penetration with this position as others; instead, you’ll grind on each other (whether your partner is inside of you or not), making this a genius position for sapphic sex.
Where are my missionary lovers at? Missionary gets a bad rap for being vanilla, but it can be one of the best positions for connection, pleasure, and comfort. We pretty much all know how this one goes, but there are always ways to spice it up. If you’re not feeling the usual “legs in the air,” you can butterfly your legs out to the side with your knees bent. Your partner will get similar access without you having to partake in a yoga move for 10 minutes.
We all know Cowgirl, but that one is a little too much work for me after I’ve spent the entire day living my life. Instead, Cowboy involves you laying on your back with your knees up and your partner straddling you with your knees behind them. It might feel a little complicated at first, but once you get the position going, the orgasms will come (hehe).